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TRUE LOVE vs. ATTACHMENT
By Lady Master Mother Mary
Scribed by Dhyana Markley
December 31, 2008
I am the one known as Mother Mary. Tonight I would like to speak about the differences between love and attachment and the differences one might expect to encounter with them both.
True love is limitless. There are no rules for people to go by. Each situation, each love affair, whether between family, friends or lovers, is different.
Many things will influence a relationship... past lives together and apart which help to form the patterns of thinking that you each must confront; when you meet, whether just after a good or bad relationship ends; whether or not you have children or other family or friends which interfere in your relationship; whether you are in a comfortable financial situation or you have just lost your job; whether you are physically or mentally sick or healthy when you meet or during your relationship. These are just a few references to remind you that relationships are not simple and easy to explain. Almost always, before you were born your higher self sat down and planned this relationship with that Soul, so you are as responsible for how that relationship turns out as they are.
When you are truly in love you will be able to work through almost any and all situations that you will share, until you agree to disagree or feel you are no longer in love. Of course, that brings up the question: Were you ever truly in love with them?
It is very hard to tell, especially in the beginning when every moment with them feels like a honeymoon. I am even talking about friends and family here, although most of your family have known you since you or they were born. With a parent, as well as a sibling, this is no guarantee that you are loved. Some, for the reasons I shared above.
Now, infatuation is a strong emotion that propels the relationship forward, usually at a very fast pace, and often burns out in the process. Often what you see is NOT what you get, because each of you is so busy trying to impress the other, that the REAL you is not always expressed.
True love usually takes some getting use to each other, watching how each of you act in various situations. For some this may be instant, especially if they have known and loved each other in a past life or two, but for most people it may take months or even years of constant caring, constant work. And even then that is not a guarantee that your love is going to work out. People often grown in different directions and a person's taste in companions may change.
Now attachment is yet another aspect of a relationship and is NOT considered love. A person's attachment to another person could be for many reasons: security or lack of it; fear of anyone or anything new; you like being thought of as his or her mate because they are rich, smart or attractive and you look good just by being with them, etc. So, you can probably guess from these statements that attachment is not the way to go if you are looking to find true love.
How do you find true love?
You GIVE true love.
It's that simple. When an individual or even group of individuals open their hearts and share their love, love will come to them from all directions. True, it may NOT be "true love". It might be infatuation, attachment or love for all the worry-some reasons, but you will attract many opportunities for relationships if you give love... indiscriminately. Now, I'm NOT talking about sex. I'm talking about LOVE. It is important to be discerning about those you bring closely into your life. A good or great relationship will nurture you, a bad one will often tear you apart, physically, mentally and spiritually.
Giving love must be done with honesty, however. Pretending to love will immediately be perceived by the receiver of your attentions and be rejected.
I will leave you with these thoughts to ponder.
I am Mary and I am grateful to have spent this time with you.
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